What are your autistic revelations?

Since accepting I am autistic so many things from my 41 years of life finally make sense. One of my biggest revelations is that I don’t have social anxiety and that my wife does. I always assumed I had social anxiety because I hated social situations. Yet the way my wife talked about it never really rang true for me. She is always reviewing interactions ie should I have said that? Was that person annoyed with me? Do you think they liked me? Etc etc. whereas I couldn’t care less about those things I was just white knuckling it hoping I would stay regulated, despite not even know that word. Am I going to have to deal with smoking, rule breaking, loud music, bright lights? So to sum up how I understand it now is that with social anxiety you are worried you are going to affect others and their opinions of you, wherease for me I am worried others are going to affect me and my opinions of them. It really has helped me navigate such situations in a healthier way. So I’m intrigued to hear what some of your revelations are and how they may have helped you.