Should I give up my career for my husband’s opportunity while balancing pressure to have a baby?

Hi everyone,

I’m in a tough spot right now and feel conflicted about balancing my marriage, career, and the pressure of starting a family. My husband recently accepted a big career opportunity abroad, and while I’m happy for him, it feels like I’m being forced to sacrifice everything I’ve worked for.

Here’s some context: 1. We’ve been married for 4 years, but we’ve already spent 2 years living apart because of my career. 2. I’m currently at a good position in my career, and it’s taken me years of effort to get here. 3. If I move with him, the language barrier and job market where he’s moving make it very unlikely I’ll be able to find work. I feel like my career will completely stall. 4. Staying where I am would allow me to keep my job and career momentum, but we’d have to live apart again, and I’m not sure how much longer we can keep doing that. 5. To complicate things further, both of us want to start a family, and the pressure to have a baby is building up. But I feel sad and conflicted because I don’t know how I can work toward having a baby while feeling like my career and identity are slipping away.

I feel like everything is closing in on me, and I don’t know what to prioritize. I don’t want to resent my marriage or myself for the choices I make now. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

How do you balance personal ambition, marriage, and family plans? Any advice or experiences would mean a lot to me.