I’m engaged and uncertain if the relationship is healthy

My partner and I have been together for 2 & a half years.

He’s really wonderful in a lot of ways, but he is quick to anger and can be pretty unkind when triggered. He’s also made a few comments while angry about “women always…”

He really has been wonderful to me in so many significant ways, but this anger worries me. I grew up with an abusive, angry stepdad and I’m just so tired of that energy in my life. Not everything has to be a crisis.

Has anyone ever been uncertain and then left? Or stayed? How was your experience.

Edit: additional info…

When he’s triggered it’s not necessarily about what he says but how he says it. He’ll get really loud, talk over me, slams doors, has driven recklessly (though he hasn’t done that since).

He’s called me crazy, a bitch. He has since stopped this since I said it was completely inappropriate.

He really does love me and tries in a lot of ways, but I feel as though if things don’t seriously change then it won’t work.