Son not allowed to have treat based on his performance.

I was already having potential issues with my son's kindergarten teacher earlier this week regarding getting more water and I have provided a link to that post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskTeachers/s/aYiJ71tpDz https://www.reddit.com/r/school/s/PGqkI9q9az

I have not followed up with the teacher in regards to that because I'm not sure how to go about it. However, what happened today makes me believe what I'm being told about the water situation.

Yesterday, when I picked my son up from school, he said that another student brought cupcakes for the class for their birthday but he did not get one because he was not working fast enough. He has a folder that he brings home everyday and he gets graded on a 1 through 5 scale along with notes explaining the reason for his grade. He came home with a three today and the note was that he could not focus and was not doing his work. This is an ongoing issue with my son and my partner and I have been working on it. We have our own punishment system at home based on the grades he gets.

From what we understand, food is not necessarily a good idea to use as a reward/punishment so we do not do that at home and from what we have researched online, it's also unethical for a school to do something like that. I do believe that there is sort of a gray line when it comes to snacks brought in by a student for their birthday because his teacher isn't necessarily taking away his lunch because he's not paying attention or something like that.

I asked his teacher if this is what happened and she confirmed that that is what happened and now my partner and I are considering speaking with the principal. I feel like I'm blowing this out of proportion and it makes me feel like crap but at the same time I don't want my child to be being taken advantage of or treated wrong.

I was already having potential issues with my son's kindergarten teacher earlier this week regarding getting more water and I have provided a link to that post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskTeachers/s/aYiJ71tpDz https://www.reddit.com/r/school/s/PGqkI9q9az

I have not followed up with the teacher in regards to that because I'm not sure how to go about it. However, what happened today makes me believe what I'm being told about the water situation.

Yesterday, when I picked my son up from school, he said that another student brought cupcakes for the class for their birthday but he did not get one because he was not working fast enough. He has a folder that he brings home everyday and he gets graded on a 1 through 5 scale along with notes explaining the reason for his grade. He came home with a three today and the note was that he could not focus and was not doing his work. This is an ongoing issue with my son and my partner and I have been working on it. We have our own punishment system at home based on the grades he gets.

From what we understand, food is not necessarily a good idea to use as a reward/punishment so we do not do that at home and from what we have researched online, it's also unethical for a school to do something like that. I do believe that there is sort of a gray line when it comes to snacks brought in by a student for their birthday because his teacher isn't necessarily taking away his lunch because he's not paying attention or something like that.

I asked his teacher if this is what happened and she confirmed that that is what happened and now my partner and I are considering speaking with the principal. I feel like I'm blowing this out of proportion and it makes me feel like crap but at the same time I don't want my child to be being taken advantage of or treated wrong.