How to deal with wife gaining weight

Hi Reddit.

I 28 m need to both get this off my chest and get some insight I’m in this really stupid situation and yes it’s my fault but bear with me I really didn’t have much of a say in some ways.

Two years ago my family was really pressuring me to get married, I didn’t want to because 1. I didn’t think I was stable enough, 2. I wanted to choose my own woman, but they pressured me to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore and I gave in anyhow just to get them off my back, I don’t live in my home country anymore I was happy in Italy and they kinda forced me into the arranged marriage.

The whole show didn’t take long to unfold, the girl is passably attractive, not my type for sure but hey I didn’t have much of a choice, but I will say she’s objectively a good woman, probably what most guys dream of in terms of sense of duty and personality but I never cared yet here we are.

I brought her back to Italy with me and basically subsidized her life, she is sweet, a great cook and quite peaceful but I never really liked her much because she’s just not what I find attractive, I don’t mind providing for a woman but I really would’ve liked to choose who I provided for, I felt like her golden ticket, the worst had to unfold and despite protection she got pregnant, I didn’t mind all that much because I do want kids and she’s an objectively good mother.

Here’s where the problem started, post pregnancy she gained a lot of weight, I understand that pregnancy causes this and I suppose if I actually liked her I wouldn’t care but as it stands I’m repulsed to even look at her, it went from me being able to tolerate her presence to me feeling nauseous just thinking about coming home, I hate this feeling because it feels like my childhood all over again, I despised coming home because my mother would beat me, I never wanted to feel that way in my own home again and once again I sit in my car for 20 mins after reaching just trying to cut down how much time I have to spend here.

I feel worse because she’s still a sweet person and it’s nothing like the nightmare ppd stories you hear about women getting downright abusive, and my daughter is an angel too I love her but I am beginning to lose my mind over this.

If I’m being absolutely blunt I want my wife gone and I just want my daughter, I am willing to give up future companionship and raise her myself I have no issues but I know for a fact that even if I pull the strings and get rid of my wife she’ll be severely ostracised by society back home and she hasn’t done anything to me to warrant that, I also don’t necessarily want to deprive my daughter of a mother but I cannot come back home to see someone who makes me sick to the stomach.

I will say this because this would be part of common questions : yes I am an extremely fit guy, been working out for 10 years and kickboxing since I was 6. And I have tried to nudge her about this in the most polite ways but she’s under the impression that this scenario is 100% normal and working out isn’t for women, I really can’t say anything past this because it’s going to become downright offensive

Please help me out in some way, my brain has reached its limit🙏🙏🙏

I’d also prefer it if men replied to this and the women kept out.