My Brother’s Unrealistic Marriage Criteria Is Driving Me Insane

So, my brother called me today complaining about the women my parents are showing him for an arranged marriage. He’s whining that they’re all “average” or “downright bad” and describing them like they’re contestants on some outdated beauty pageant “standing like it’s a 1990s studio with legs far apart” or “having big bellies.” He’s acting like my parents are supposed to magically present him with a supermodel on a platter.

I told him straight up, "If you’ve got such high standards, go find a woman yourself!" And guess what his excuse was? “There are no Muslim women in my office.” Like, WTF? So I ask him, “Why does she have to be Muslim? What does religion have to do with love?” He literally had no answer. He just kept repeating, “She has to be Muslim so she can gel with Mom.” Oh, yeah, because that’s clearly the cornerstone of a thriving relationship "pleasing Mom."

It gets worse, this is his checklist:
1. She has to be Muslim (already ridiculous).
2. Her entire family’s medical history needs to be vetted like we’re hiring her for a job.
3. She and her family need to be "good looking" because he wants “good looking kids.”
(At one instance he rejected a girl because her other sisters looked manly and had too much facial hair.) 4. She has to be his support system, but he doesn’t care what she does with her life otherwise.

I tried reasoning with him by saying “Looks fade, bro. Relationships need love to survive. If you’re obsessed with appearances, you’ll miss out on someone who could actually make you happy.” His response? “If she turns out to be bitchy, I’ll just marry another.” Excuse me? Another? Is he shopping for a spare tire?

The hypocrisy is mind blowing. He says he doesn’t care what she does with her life, yet he’s scrutinizing her entire existence like a detective. He talks about needing a “support system” while basically reducing her to an accessory. He’s all about appearances, but if someone judged him on his flaws, he’d probably lose it.

I’m horrified by his entitlement and shallow mentality. How do I even reason with this fool? He’s so hung up on these superficial filters, I’m convinced he’ll either end up alone or miserable. Please, tell me how to slap some sense into him, because I can’t take this nonsense anymore.

Edit 1: For everyone saying point 2 is alright, asking for her and maybe her parents medical history is reasonable, but demanding it from everyone in her family? That’s just invasive and unnecessary.

Edit 2: To all men arguing with me for a beautiful wife. Want a beautiful women? Have the capablity of loving her when her beauty fades as well. Just don't end up in another women's bed.

Edit 3: I want to clarify that I am NOT Islamophobic. My concerns stem from personal experiences. For example, my brother isn’t a practicing Muslim, yet he seems to use the cultural and religious privileges associated with being a Muslim man, which he thinks is seeking a subservient partner or the option of marrying multiple times.

I just believe, If our generation starts seeing beyond religion and focuses on individuals as people, that's a step in the right direction. Just because religion heavily influences many aspects of life today doesn’t mean it has to be that way in the future. We have the power to foster change and create a more inclusive, progressive society.