New Years Reflection about Loneliness

Its New Year’s Day, and I’m still feeling that familiar pain of loneliness. It’s been a recurring theme this year—trying to date, putting myself out there, hoping to find a connection, but always failing to find it. On my birthday just a few days ago, I hit a low point as being alone on that day was hard. I vented about it, and someone gave me advice I wasn’t ready to hear at first: embrace the loneliness instead of fighting it.

At first, I thought, What does that even mean? Why would I want to embrace something so painful? But in these past few days, I’ve tried. I’ve stopped obsessing over what’s missing and started sitting with what’s here. And honestly? It’s helped.

Don’t get me wrong—being single still sucks. I still want to find someone to share my life with, someone who chooses me the way I’ll choose them. But I’m starting to realize that fighting my loneliness, resisting it, and letting it define me only makes it worse. When I embrace it, when I acknowledge that I’m alone without letting it mean I’m unworthy or unlovable, it hurts a little less.

This year has been rough on the dating front. But maybe this season of loneliness isn’t something to be solved. Maybe it’s just a phase of life I need to go through—a reminder to be enough for myself before I’m enough for someone else.

So here’s to 2025. Not because I think it’ll magically bring me the love I’ve been searching for, but because I’m learning to be okay with where I am now. I’m learning that loneliness isn’t a curse; it’s just a space waiting to be filled—with love for myself, with joy I create, and maybe someday, with someone who’s worth it. They say progress is slow, and I feel like this is a part of being adult, and I feel that I am learning more and progressing. Doesn’t matter how slow right? progress is progress.

Thank you all for listening to my rant. Lots of love❤️