AITA for kicking my friend out of my house?

A few years ago, I (27 non-binary) offered to let my friend (27 m male) move in with me and my wife (27 female), because he was miserable where he was living, and we agreed he’d stay with us for a year or two until he had some money saved up. We paid for the plain ticket, helped him get a job, and drove him around since he didn’t have a car.

We agreed on a rent price just to help out with bills and groceries. Everything seemed fine at first, but then he stopped helping out with chores, his room started getting more and more disgusting, and he’d leave trash all over the house. We talked to him about helping out with chores, and even offered to try a chore chart or something like that (we’re all pretty neurodivergent). Nothing would stick more than a week or two, and when we would talk to him about it, it “wasn’t his fault that he couldn’t remember.”

It was getting so bad that our whole house started to smell bad because he wouldn’t shower. We asked to know when people would be over, especially since he was on the night shift and would hang out with people while we were gone. But there were several times where we caught him lying about hiving people over without telling us.

Finally, after few months ago, we told him it was time he at looking for a place to live outside our house. He found a place on eBay, moved out and a week later he was told he had to move out at the end of the month (it wasn’t exactly clear how legal everything was, but he didn’t want to do anything about it). A week after that, he got let go from his job. He was on unemployment and getting a severance package.

We agreed to let him move in for a month, rent free, to try to get his feet under him, but only one month. We got it all in writing and everything. He was immediately as messy and gross as he had been, he never left the house, and he ate only takeout for all month. He kept telling us he was applying for jobs, but he never seemed to get any calls for interviews. Whenever we would ask if he wanted to move home, he yelled at us that we couldn’t force him to go back home. We let it go. We offered to pay for a plain to him get back to his home town if he wanted, but said that he still needed to out by the end of the month. Well, the month passed, and he didn’t have a plan.

He refused to buy a plain ticket home (due to car troubles we couldn’t afford it anymore) because he didn’t have any money and he couldn’t take all his stuff on a plain by himself. We offered to ship anything back that he couldn’t take. He didn’t like that. So finally my wife told him that he needed to call someone and find a place to go, and he refused to leave. They had a screaming match, he refused to call anyone, and ultimately he ended up going to the homeless shelter near by. It’s been a week since then, and his parents just came and picked him and his stuff up. They didn’t talk to us ask they picked up his stuff.

Am I the asshole for kicking him out?