Am i overreacting/ Partner doesn’t text me back in a timely manner.
Me and my partner have been together for a year and three months now, and I always get into arguments with them about not texting me within a timely manner, like within 3 hours. However they don’t seem to see it as a problem, Because they think its normal. But what im having trouble understanding and accepting is how are they so busy to where they can’t text me within 3 hours? Or even just tell me they probably won’t be able to text me back. I would be fine with them just telling me straight up and stuff. I have an anxious attachment style, and i always get angry when they keep doing it. They say its a habit and it’s starting to make me more angry because why is that habit destroying our relationship? (Fwi: were a long distance relationship, But we’ve met in person before) For ex: they went to the gym recently, and they hired a personal trainer, which was new. Then they left me on delivered for 6 hours. I was angry because they could have at least told me that they got there or that they were done but they just fell asleep after. I was worried but i was just prosecuting them for leaving on delivered for 6 whole hours. It’s getting so frustrating and it’s making me stressed when they say im a “military partner” for just asking for stable communication. Im just so stuck on what to do because this is literally our only line of connection.
The picture shows 2 things, the timestamps and the desperation. We did call around 1:10 pm and then they called me at 11 pm approximately their time (EST) Im (MST). Im just getting frustrated because is this normal? Their friends say im overreacting and that im the one thats in the wrong but i just believe that what im asking for shouldn’t be that much. The friends part made me really mad because it makes me feel like im overreacting when they don’t know the trauma ive been through as a child. I just need advice or insight from anyone please, thank you.
Me and my partner have been together for a year and three months now, and I always get into arguments with them about not texting me within a timely manner, like within 3 hours. However they don’t seem to see it as a problem, Because they think its normal. But what im having trouble understanding and accepting is how are they so busy to where they can’t text me within 3 hours? Or even just tell me they probably won’t be able to text me back. I would be fine with them just telling me straight up and stuff. I have an anxious attachment style, and i always get angry when they keep doing it. They say its a habit and it’s starting to make me more angry because why is that habit destroying our relationship? (Fwi: were a long distance relationship, But we’ve met in person before) For ex: they went to the gym recently, and they hired a personal trainer, which was new. Then they left me on delivered for 6 hours. I was angry because they could have at least told me that they got there or that they were done but they just fell asleep after. I was worried but i was just prosecuting them for leaving on delivered for 6 whole hours. It’s getting so frustrating and it’s making me stressed when they say im a “military partner” for just asking for stable communication. Im just so stuck on what to do because this is literally our only line of connection.
The picture shows 2 things, the timestamps and the desperation. We did call around 1:10 pm and then they called me at 11 pm approximately their time (EST) Im (MST). Im just getting frustrated because is this normal? Their friends say im overreacting and that im the one thats in the wrong but i just believe that what im asking for shouldn’t be that much. The friends part made me really mad because it makes me feel like im overreacting when they don’t know the trauma ive been through as a child. I just need advice or insight from anyone please, thank you.