AIO: I want to be a single dad

I (30M) work from home as a web developer, and watch our daughter (9mo) full time. My girlfriend and I have been together 12 years, she was my first real relationship

Every day I wake up at 5-6am when the baby wakes up. I'm an early bird so I actually love spending my mornings with her. I work 1 handed while I feed her or during naps. Or I have other family who can gekp

My girlfriend (30F) most days does nothing for the house or pets or baby. She sleeps in until 9-10am. Gets ready to work. Comes home around 5pm. I cook or buy food. Then I put the baby to bed around 7-9pm. Then I go to bed too and she's up until midnight or later on her phone.

My girlfriends idea is taking care of the baby is "call my mom" "call your mom" "see if my sister can watch her* she always tries to pass her off and doesn't actually seem to have any interest in being alone with the baby. She doesn't help cook. She doesn't help clean. In 12 years I don't think she's ever made me a meal that wasnt scrambled eggs

Though obviously a baby doesn't always stick to the routine. Sometimes the baby is up at like 11pm... And then my gf will wake me up to go get her. It frustrates me because she gets to sleep an extra 3-4 hours after the baby is up every day yet won't help at night.

We also have 2 dogs and 2 cats. She doesn't feed them. She doesn't clean up dog poop or cat litter. She might fill up their water bowl a few times a week. She doesn't save any money. It feels like I adopted a 30 year old child.

This weekend was the final straw for me. I've been taking care of 2 kids without any help. My girlfriend has a free trip to Disneyland planned (her friend works there.) She was supposed to take the baby and take pictures, and give me a day off. At the last minute the day before though, (this isn't satire I promise) because.... She wanted to get drunk at Disneyland. She called my mom to take care of the baby instead.

My mom being the saint she is, of course agreed. And bought me lunch later in the day after I caught up on my work. But what was supposed to be a "day off" (of working.) turned into me taking care of the baby while she gets drunk at Disneyland.

Now I'm sitting here posting this at midnight while the baby cries and she's not even home. I've been up since 6am and I'm so tired. I just want to take my baby, move to an apartment, and say fuck her and her God damn animals that she doesn't take care of.

After typing all this I feel like such an idiot