Update: proof that this sub is an absolute joke. Stop wasting your time posting serious replies to typical posts where OP is clearly not the a**hole.

So, my (34M) sister (29F) recently got married. It was a huge, fancy event, and she spent the past year planning every single detail. One of her main rules was that it would be a child-free wedding. I completely understand and respect that; it's her wedding, her rules.

Here’s the thing: I’m a single dad to my son (6M). I don’t have much of a support system, and his mom isn’t in the picture. When I got the invite, I told my sister I’d love to come but explained my situation. I asked if there was any way I could bring my son or, if not, if she’d be willing to help me cover a babysitter for the day since it would require an overnight trip. She shut both ideas down immediately, saying, “It’s not her responsibility” and to “figure it out like everyone else.”

Fair enough. But I genuinely couldn’t find anyone to watch him. I even offered to hire a sitter to stay with him in the hotel during the ceremony and reception, but my sister still said no, claiming it “violated the spirit” of her child-free rule. So, I let her know I couldn’t make it. She was furious and told me I was being selfish, that I should’ve “made it work.”

The wedding went on, and I didn’t attend. Now my entire family is blowing up my phone, calling me an a**hole for missing such an important day. My sister won’t speak to me, and my parents are saying I should’ve “tried harder” or “just left him with someone for one night.”

AITAH for standing my ground and not going when I couldn’t bring my son or find a sitter?

Edit for clarification: To those asking if I could’ve left him with a friend or someone else: I genuinely don’t have anyone I trust to leave him with overnight.

Edit 2: I also want to add that my sister has met my son maybe twice and has never really taken an interest in my life as a single parent. This wasn’t just about the wedding—it feels like a bigger issue about her lack of empathy.