AITAH for telling my husband I won’t cook dinner every night because I also work full-time?

I (30F) have been married to my husband, Tom (32M), for 4 years. We both work full-time jobs—he works in IT, and I work in marketing. Despite us having similar work hours, I’ve somehow ended up being the one who cooks dinner every single night.

At first, I didn’t mind because I enjoy cooking, but over time, it’s become exhausting. Some days, I come home after a long day and just want to relax. Meanwhile, Tom comes home, sits on the couch, and waits for dinner to be served. He never offers to help with cooking or cleaning up afterward.

Last night, I told Tom that I’m done being the only one responsible for cooking dinner. I suggested that we split the responsibility—either he cooks a few nights a week, we take turns, or we order takeout sometimes. Tom got defensive and said it’s “not a big deal” since I’m “better at cooking anyway” and that it’s something I’ve always done. He also said he’s too tired after work and doesn’t see why this needs to change.

I got frustrated and told him it’s unfair to expect me to do everything when we both work. Now he’s upset, saying I’m overreacting and making a big deal out of something small. He even told a couple of his friends, who are siding with him, saying “it’s just dinner.”

So, AITAH for telling my husband I won’t cook dinner every night because I also work full-time?